Doing the Right Thing

Doing the right thing for your child...

I have a grand daughter who is 6 years old, my daughter was 14 when she had her. Her having this child is a long story in itself and this i'll skip, in the end of it all things turned out well, she did wonderful as a mother. Anyways being young, her and childs father split up after 4 years, they had an agreement between them that they would share custody. For 2 years things went good with this non-court custody agreement. In his family his mother was a stay home mom and coincidently had a child of her own the same age as my grand-daughter,so her main home was his mothers home. I worked many hours and my daughter did as well. We all thought this was the best situation for her.

Over thanksgiving my daughter had her for 2 weeks in Calif, bringing her back the first week in december, just about the second week in december she called to see how her daughter was, spoke with her father he said things were fine, but she told me there was something strange about his voice and mannerism,she shrugged it off and thought maybe he's just having a hard day or something. The following week came she called but this time no answer,and then again and again.. she called his mother and when someone would answer they would hang up on her. This was all happening suddenly just out of no where and for no reasons she could think of, she had a good relationship with his mother. Now 3 weeks went by and she hasnt heard anything about her daughter, on the 4th week she got frantic and extremely upset because she's gotten no contact with either of them, she left message after message. Right as we were talking on the phone she got a call from a strange number, she put me on hold and answered, come to find out it was CPS.. Child Protective Services, the story was that he left his mothers house (moved out) with my grand-daughter he has met some woman and holed up in this drug infested weekly hotel, he had allowed this woman to take my grand-daughter in a stolen car and while doing so she got busted buying meth. Right after the call to her, i got the call from CPS, they wanted us in court first thing in the morning, my daughter caught the first flight out here.. When this all happened with the police, this woman being arrested and my grand-daughter going down to CPS.. they could not contact him til finally this woman gave up some information so that he could be contacted, he told the police that she was taking her to go get some candy.. denying anything to do with drugs.. (it makes me absolutely sick every time i read that in the report)..the police were obvious to his lies,they told him.."if you come down right now submit a drug test we will release your child to you" he didn't show up called later and said he was busy.. they gave him a second chance and said.. "if you come down right now and allow us to run a background check we will release her to you" again he didn't go.. he was dirty for drugs and had warrants for other drug activites. Me and my daughter showed up in court, they released her to me first because although my daughter did not do drugs it was in the situation so she had to drug test and background check, we had to go back to court one week later for results and to have her fully released and cleared of any envolvement with drugs. His own parents did not show up (im wondering if they knew anything) but In the end everything is fine, my daughter has full custody and she is doing well.

In all the years that i knew her childs father, and all the years my daughter spent with him he was never known to be envolved with drugs, he went to work every day and came home, he would not even associate with anything to do with them, or even anything illegal, not even a traffic ticket.. it's just so surprising how things or a person can go from very good to very bad.. almost over night

As far as myself.. i was so angry, i was a basket case inside, when i picked her up from CPS seeing the look on her face sent tears rolling down and i could barely stop my knees from folding beneath to fall to the ground to thank god that she w as okay..

OMG Imagin.ation... that is so sad, and so very scary for you and your daughter and grandchild... I am sorry you had to go through all of that, but so happy at the end result! I don't think I breathed while reading it until I got to the line that said, "they released her to me first..." Thank you for sharing your story.


katt

May God bless you, your daughter and grand daughter!

I went through a divorce and prayed everynight that my kids would come home to me.  I not only didn't trust their mother but she lived in another state.  All is good now.  Always make the kids come first over every situation.

I hope your daughter's ex sees the light and finds it in himself that his child is only suffering over his selfish actions and can turn his life around.

May God Bless!
Eric

Oh Imagin, you and your daughter have gone through hell here... But I'm very happy that things got sorted out and I'm sure you will take good care of the two girls.

Since me and my daughter have full court custody,we agreed between us that he is not to see her until he cleans up no matter how long it takes, the descion he made to let that woman take her in a stolen car and then to go buy drugs was unbeleivable let alone the absolute danger she was in is horrifying to know. Her face, the look was so lost.. the most saddest and scaredest i've seen in a child,i'll never forget that look,i wish he could of seen it.

If there ever is a break up i do think that their should be some sort of court order for the custody of a child,i keep thinking what if thisdidn't happen he could of just took her anywhere and we'd might not have even seen her again, so many things ran through my mind.

If he loves his daughter he will do it, he will fix his life.

I think that is an excellent decision imagin.ation... and if he cleans up I would not let him see her unsupervised... never give him a chance to take off with her or to put her in danger again. Just sayin...



katt

that's totally hell and devastating... its good to hear that you and your daughter and granddaughter are all okay now.. being in that kind of situation need strength and trust with the family... thank you for sharing your story surely anybody would read this will learn fro it...
god bless to you and your family... be safe..