Once A Cheater Always??

Feel free to talk about anything and everything in this board.
Headline back 2
    4,360
    views
    24
    replies
    Last post ago over 6 years by BIGLEAN
    Avatar 24791

    toodleedoo

      Sr. Member
    • female
    • offline
    Cancer schmancer
    • 115
      thanks given
    • 117
      thanks received
    • Started by
      Sr. Member
      450
    • last active 4 months ago

    Readers of this topic also read:

    Please or register to post or comment.
      • Avatar 24791

        toodleedoo

          Sr. Member
        • female
        • offline
        Cancer schmancer
        • 115
          thanks given
        • 117
          thanks received
        • Started by
          Sr. Member
          450
        • last active 4 months ago
        What do you guys think about this, once a cheater always a cheater?  Can a former serial cheater reform their ways and be true?  Someone says they would never cheat because they are with the one that they truly love, but is that enough to keep someone true?  Is it simply in their nature regardless?  Or are they only behavinr 'for now' and you never know what may happen?
      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 24791
        Yes, I believe people are able to reform.
      • Avatar 10386

        BIGLEAN

          Super Hero
        • offline
        ***** Never take the BLAME nor the CREDIT for something you did not do*****
        • 690
          thanks given
        • 331
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,447
        • last active about 1 month ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 24791
        One CAN change learned behavior, but one can NOT change the person they were born to be!

      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago
        SLOT JUNKIE!!! wrote:

        One CAN change learned behavior, but one can NOT change the person they were born to be!




        hmmm..thats a witty philosophical play with words..and indeed true.

        So then, in the context of this post,  the question to you is:  Is cheating a learned behavior?

        I think it is.
      • Avatar 24791

        toodleedoo

          Sr. Member
        • female
        • offline
        Cancer schmancer
        • 115
          thanks given
        • 117
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Sr. Member
          450
        • last active 4 months ago
        Slot- that's what I think too.  This person loves characters in movies where the lead is promiscuous, sexually adventurous, completely relates to womanizers etc.  Like Skin Deep, thinks it is hilarious etc.  (so do I by the way, but I think it is a bit more with this person) Is a big romantic too, especially about 'the one'.  It just makes me curious if reform has happened, or if the next time they get bored they will act out- like if 'the one' isn't living up to the expectations set for them.  Hmm... 
      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago
        toodleedoo, Is your question about a specific person?  Or were asking in general, if serial cheaters are able to change their ways?
      • Avatar 10386

        BIGLEAN

          Super Hero
        • offline
        ***** Never take the BLAME nor the CREDIT for something you did not do*****
        • 690
          thanks given
        • 331
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,447
        • last active about 1 month ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 17884
        ishin wrote:

        SLOT JUNKIE!!! wrote:

        One CAN change learned behavior, but one can NOT change the person they were born to be!




        hmmm..thats a witty philosophical play with words..and indeed true.

        So then, in the context of this post,  the question to you is:  Is cheating a learned behavior?

        I think it is.


        I believe it is a self taught addiction, and like any bad learned behavioral habits(drugs, gambling, over-eating...) it can be unlearned!! One first has to see it is a problem and then want to make a change. I also believe the only time the change is effective and long lasting is when they have came to a revelation on their own, not from an ultimatum or threat of a loved one!

        Which makes me think of this(a little off subject but...) I have a friend that was on drugs and ever time he had a relapse, he would say it is a disease(I can't help it) and I would say no cancer is a disease, asthma is a disease...drugs is a CHOICE that you have trained your body and mind to need in order to function normally or think you are functioning normally(Not)!  I believe the same applies to sex addiction or any other addiction!

        So through all my babbling, the answer to your question is, yes :-)
      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 10386
        SLOT JUNKIE!!! wrote:


        So through all my babbling, the answer to your question is, yes :-)


        lmao 
        btw, I agree with all that babble in yer babbling 
      • Img 20160318 141312

        Feelin froggy

          admin
        • female
        • offline
        • 2899
          thanks given
        • 4690
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          admin
          5,636
        • last active 3 hrs ago
        They may change if they learn what makes them unhappy or  lack respect for their partner. Maybe it's just a lack of excitement that makes someone cheat. As a serial cheater myself, I would say we can change!  j/k

      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago
        Feelin froggy wrote:

        They may change if they learn what makes them unhappy or  lack respect for their partner. Maybe it's just a lack of excitement that makes someone cheat. As a serial cheater myself, I would say we can change!  j/k




        which part are you 'j/k' about?  that you are a serial cheater?  or that you can change?  hahaha lol
      • Avatar 17884

        MommyMachine

          Mighty! Member
        • female
        • offline
        There goes my baby....
        • 1533
          thanks given
        • 733
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Mighty! Member
          3,700
        • last active 3 months ago
        Ok, well I think people can change, of course they can.

        Slot Junkie..Addiction is a disease, it is not a choice. JMO

        I think people can do whatever it is they want to do. They just have to want it bad enough. I have cheated, in my past...but that doesn't mean I would do it again.

        Mistakes are mistakes, and if they are willing to make that change..of course it is possible, just like most things in life.


        :-*
      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago
        I think we might be getting stuck here on semantics.  'Diseases' may be congenital, organic in nature, and/ or learned.  i.e. some people see gambling as a disease.
      • Avatar 17884

        MommyMachine

          Mighty! Member
        • female
        • offline
        There goes my baby....
        • 1533
          thanks given
        • 733
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Mighty! Member
          3,700
        • last active 3 months ago
        I was merely stating my opinion

        She knows I ♥ her...


        :-*
      • Avatar 10386

        BIGLEAN

          Super Hero
        • offline
        ***** Never take the BLAME nor the CREDIT for something you did not do*****
        • 690
          thanks given
        • 331
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,447
        • last active about 1 month ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 17884
        • Avatar 31153
        Lack of excitement= tell, show,teach your partner what you like. If they are uncomfortable and not willing then guaranteed there will be cheating! And since sex is a big part of a relationship, if the person is unwilling to help keep it exciting, then perhaps you are in the wrong one!

        It is up to the unexcited person to get creative and make some excitement, but having a partner that is willing to play along is vital to a "blazing" bedroom
        Alot of times it is how comfortable one is with them self and in the relationship that makes the difference!
        But sometimes no matter what you do, the other one still cheats because they are unhappy within themselves and are looking to feel good. But cheating only leads to a temporary quick fix feel good which is why you do it so often. To try and keep feeling good!

        I have been with my husband for over 20 years and we have to keep a fire extinguisher next to our bed or any other area we play in

        *note* when I say you it just means him/her/he/she
      • Avatar 31153

        ishin

          Super Hero
        • male
        • offline
        an apathetic America is a pathetic America
        • 246
          thanks given
        • 207
          thanks received
        • Replied by
          Super Hero
          1,238
        • last active 4 months ago

        Thanks for this post from:

        • Avatar 17884
        you buncha cheatin wenches

      lcb activities in the last 24 hours

      • 29
        new members
      • 639
        members online
      • 11505
        guests online
      • 65
        new posts
      • 3982
        free games played
      Join the club

      Most viewed forum posts

      • Putting on lipstick emoticon 1
        Hi LCB'ers,Here is a list of freebies that are not on the weekly code list. This list includes casinos to check your acct, call/email for free chip and casinos not listed here at our forum.  I will update this list on...
        More Free Chips
      • 200 zpsnwkvewod
        Hello dear LCBers,LimoPlay Casino has something special in stored for you!!Each week Vitali, the lovely casino representative from LimoPlay will be posting a new contest. Please subscribe to this thread by clicking on...
        Win free spins and more every week with LimoPlay
      • Putting on lipstick emoticon 1
        LCB $250 August Contest – Lets Play Roulette     Hi LCB'ers because of the launch of the new site design i had to temporarily close this contest. Lets start fresh - for any member that may have already enterted a...
        CLOSED - LCB $250 August Contest – Lets Play Roulette

      Join today and start earning rewards

      You will immediately get full access to our online casino forum/chat plus receive our newsletter with news & exclusive bonuses every month.
      S logo
      Select Language
      Search
      Search Results

      Report to moderator

      Use this function to inform the moderators and administrator of an abusive or wrongly posted message.

      Please note that your email address will be revealed to the moderators if you use this

      Submit
      39012170