Physcial or Mental Attraction...what turns you on?

Hiya LCB Family,

Intially we are judged by our looks. That’s just the way society is. It’s interesting to note the 7/11 evaluation. In the first 7 seconds of meeting a person……..11 characteristics  about that person are made.

Beyond the physcial attraction lies the mental stimulation. Someone who makes you think. A person who you really relate to or someone you look up to.

What turn’s you on more…….the physcial side of a person or the mental connection?

Lips

Well...now in my 40s, the usual T and A just aren't the immediate attraction they once were.  So I would say EYES, definately the EYES.  Also, when I am in A.C. I have a gal I pay rather handsomely for a massage.  She is highly attractive, but I like the look of her hands.  Truly works of art.

attraction would be a major factor as to what turns me on...and the mental attraction could be the very factor that turns it off...

but if you are looking for something deeper than merely being turned on and moreso towards a meaningful relationship - it would start with attraction which is the first of the five stages of a relationship. The five stages are as follows;

Stage 1 – The Romance, Honeymoon, Attraction, Infatuation Stage
Stage 2 - The Disillusionment, Reality, Unmasking Stage
Stage 3 - The Power Struggle, Friction, Disappointment Stage
Stage 4 - The Stability, Friendship, Reconciliation Stage
Stage 5 - The Commitment, Acceptance, Transformation, Real Love Stage

YING and YANG i think apply here(depends on how YOU see it)due to the fact i can sit at a game of cribbage with an opponent who could win "hideous of the year" and just be so attracted to his his his(see typin mesmerizes)whit, skill, just wonderin what makes him tick,always givin me a piece of new knowledge mental activity(there i go again)i found myself always wanting to be with this man.Then there is still the love of my life always will(dunno why)but he hurt me and hurt me more than you know(only 1 i ever "went back" to EVER)but even knowing what the outcome was i was so attracted to his beautiful body amazing curved smooth definition and as the color of steel intense eyes...he was not to be trusted...AWWW ANYHOW they both can be overwhelming and absent each other so if you find  w/both dont let it get away BOOIE

I have always been attracted to someone based on their personality and whats inside.I agree with Tony 100%

that may be true for you, but in my case it is not. Just because someone is attractive doesn't mean I'm gonna walk across the room and start talking to them. I may look at them but something else has to spark my interest.

ahhh...u mean to say u need that vibe or electricity that surges through your body...that sensation that overwhelms you with uncontrollable desire and lust..in which the more you try to contain it, the stronger it gets...until u can't take it anymore...and then u realize....u gotta pee.

LOL!

It's a combination of both 4 me.  Now, Bruce (husband) & I met on-line; we talked every single nite on-line, minimum of 5 hrs.  We had no clue what the other looked like; by the time we met in-person (2 mos. later) I could have cared less what he looked like.  I was already in love with him; 'course, I'm not gonna lie..... the fact that he's absolutely GORGEOUS (2 me anyway) certainly helped things   It's been 5 years & we r very happily married

neither i go with personality and character and values

I feel so darn shallow...but, I am staying with "eyes!"

Tony......well said.  Yeah, we guys **eventually** go for the good conversation, brains, depth, etc.  But, hey, we need a shallow, enticing "hook" to bring us in!

I don't think real attraction is based on looks. Sure someone may catch our eye based soully on looks. But i don't think that is what sparks chemistry or longevity in a relationship.

I might see some gorgeous man that may catch my eye. But is he egotistical...major turn off. If i sense that i won't give him a second look.

I think real attraction is the way a man carries himself. His intelligence.....his sense of humor.....his inner strength......and his good instincts will spark the flame for me.

Lips

Lips.....I am going to play devils advocate here.  I agree 100% with what you say.  However, I don't see many, if any, very attractive women with short, fat, balding, den legged, bulbous nosed men who have "inner strength." 

Doc,

Maybe i am the odd duck. I will tell you a story when i used to work in a shoe department some time back.

My supervisor was far from handsome. If the truth be told he was not attractive at all to most. He looked a bit like a young Woody Allen. But, i will tell you i had a MAJOR crush on this guy.

I told a couple of my co-workers and they thought i had lost my mind!! There was just something about him i could not explain. I got up the courage to tell him. He turned 7 shades of red and said....there is no way you have a crush on ME.

This made me feel really bad. Why is it i wouldn't have a crush on him? It was a temporary job i took at the holidays. After that i never saw him again. Needless to say i was the one who didn't have a chance with him. He just couldn't accept it.

He may not have been handsome.....but he had a personality that rocked me. There was not a day that i worked with him that i didn't laugh til i cried.

Without trying to sound cliche.....beauty really is only skin deep. What we grow to love in a person is not what we are seeing in them......rather what we are sensing about them.

Lips

what REALLY turns me on...is if they do the dishes!!!!!!!!!!!

hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!! 


don't care WHAT they look like then 

LOL !!!!!!    ya..... but do they get clean
BOOIE

funny...that's why i usually do the dishes, the shopping, etc, etc...

want something done right? right

Wow soda69 I think that's the best analysis I've ever read on the subject.