So Impacted by my Morning Drive....

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        Hiya Guys and Dolls,

        Just about every morning i make my coffee run even on those days i don't want to because Hazel is waiting at the door like "c'mon mom let's go"!

        I have a couple different places i go for coffee but i have been compelled to go to one place even though i like the coffee better at the other. It's in a strip mall and everything else is closed that early in the morning.

        There is a place to donate plasma. And like ground hound day every morning it is the same. There are groves of people waiting for the doors to open to donate plasma for cash.

        It's obvious by looking at these people they are hard pressed for cash as well as hit hard times. Deep inside i think ..ya know i could be one of those people some day and i feel fortunate that i am not at the moment.

        But there is a deeper emotion for these people. The sadness on their faces. No one smiles and there is a sense deep sorrow or loneliness. I don't know what put them there and it does not really matter if it was an addiction, homeless or loss of employment. The bottom line is they are broke and in deep despair.

        I have thought many times to wave at them as i drive by or give them a warm smile just to express i understand how you feel. But fear how they would take that. Would they think i was making a mockery of them?

        I have even thought of bringing them all a cup of coffee as they wait outside. And just like we all dream "if i ever one the lottery" i think i would go straight there to the same faces i see day after day waiting and waiting with no life in their eyes and share my wealth. 

        Do i take a different route and ignore them or is there some type of small gesture i can make to show kindness to them.  What do you think?

        Lips
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        i think that u should buy the coffee and maybe some dougnuts and let them know that u didnt want to drink ur coffee alone today...and would like them to drink with you...something along those lines so they dont feel like u r sorry for them..

        but if u feel like it is something u should do it is because there is somethng u should do...and it doesnt take hitting the lottery to do so...

        ur heart is in the right place lips..

        GOD BLESS YOU
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        Wow that's a tough one. I totally understand how that must make you feel and I understand your hesitation. Granted, some may be donating out of the kindness of their hearts but for some it may be pure desperation. If I put myself in their situation, from a desperation point of view, I think I'd rather be ignored. Gosh, It would honestly depend on what's going on in my life.

        It's definitely a toss up especially when you are dealing with a group of strangers with different personalities and circumstances. BE CAREFUL. I say if you want to help, contribute to a charity or shelter. I know you have good intentions but approaching any group of people in a deserted strip mall just makes me nervous for you.

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        Being a stimulant, coffe may not be such a good idea for some of those people. In order to qualify to donate your pulse and blood pressure have to be within a certain range and quite a few of those people are likely to be pretty borderline. I used to donate fairly often and for some reason it was always a real stretch with my pulse rate. Probably in part because I was already stressed about needing some extra cash and not sure if I'd make the cut that time; sometimes it just wouldn't get low enough.

        If you really feel compelled to do something though, doughnuts wouldn't be a bad idea. They usually give you something sweet to get your blood sugar back up afterwards anyway.
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        It would be a very kind gesture Lips but if you do it once, will they be expecting it every day (assuming it is the same people donating)?

        Also, as Froggy points it, it could be dangerous with all the different characters that you come across.  If you do decide to do it, I'm sure they will be very welcoming but do take care.

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        Lips I am with the others on the danger of the thing, but I also agree that the desire to do something is strong and right.

        What to do would put me in a quandary, but bradwill has some experience so is probably right about the coffee and you do not want whatever you do to affect their ability to get the money they need.

        To mitigate the danger, enlist the help of some friends and do it together... safety in numbers and an opportunity for more people to give of themselves.

        Finally, a huge pot of hot soup, or oatmeal since it is early, comes to mind. Or fruit... something healthy that will sustain them for more than the little moment that a donut satisfies?

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        You are a kind soul Lips, I admire that a lot. I think that the coffee gesture wouldn't be out of line, on the contrary, I think that they might appreciate it.
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        I don't think it really matters what you share...either coffee or even boxes of cheapest donuts in the world, what matters is the fact that you're putting your thoughts and care into doing something kind for others and the thoughts that go along with that act of kindness.
        The simple saying goes with this, "its the thought that counts."
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        Your replies were really good and gave me a chance to look at it on both sides.

        I know it can be a bit risky cuz it so early in the morn and kinda desolate. But i will try it at least once and see how it goes and take it from there.

        I might go with the donut idea and bring them tomorrow and let you know how it went.

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        I can see both sides of it. As you wrote, most are there out of desperation and probably feels no one cares. If the smallest gesture can make a huge difference. 
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        Nice of you to care about them, Lips. 

        I am one who doesn't think of the dangers first but helping.

        Since your first thought was some looked down and out, by all means pass around some coffee, pastries or whatever you can.  Trust me, nobody will think you are looking down on them as charity cases...instead... as a great lady who is sharing kindness with strangers.

        I saw something on a TV show and have done it myself. I had some family and friends over and to make toiletry baggies.  Everyone brought stuff and we put soap, towelettes, toothbrushes, toothpaste, little shampoos, mints, etc.... and my SIL and me drove to the worst part of downtown MPLS and gave them to the homeless.  If it was really scary, we tossed them through the window.  I swear, it was like giving $50 bills.  Very grateful and no upturned noses.  I stay away from the clearly mentally ill but the others seem down on their luck and just like everyone else. 

        Who knows when we ourselves may need a helping hand or little lift.  The smallest things can give someone hope and a smile...which goes a loooooong way.
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        Hiya Guys and Dolls,

        I got up this morn and me and Hazel were on a mission! I figured 5 boxes of donuts would do it!

        As i am driving of course i am a bit nervous cuz i am not sure how they will receive me. I didn't have nerves out of fear but more out of i hope they know my intentions are nothing but good.

        Then a thought came over me........what if one of them said "we don't know you, what makes you think we would take something from a stranger"! My immediate thought to that was feeling sad but then i thought about it a minute longer........

        It would represent their worth! To know that their pride was still in tacked and they value themselves as well as the next person would make me feel good if this is how it should turn out. 

        Wouldn't you know it.........i got there just a little bit too late. The doors had just opened moments before  . At least i was lucky enough to discover that on the way to get the donuts or else i would of had more donuts then i knew what to do with!

        I really really loved the idea curtsonlylove had to get out and say i didn't want to have my coffee alone today. If things go well i think i would love to do just that next time.

        Tomorrow i'll go again and with a little luck i can let ya know how it went cuz 9 times out of 10 the doors aren't open when i drive by.

        Lips
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        Good for you for trying! 

        I'm 'ing since I would have most likely had the same thoughts floating through my mind as I set out on the mission.  
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        What a very nice idea Lips!!! I hope all goes well for you when you try again.
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        Lips, you could have given the donuts to the people without bragging about it.  One may think you did it to try to impress the Forum, not for the goodwill of the people.

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